BY: ZUSIE S. TIMBOL. PIID
Q: I am happily married for a couple of years now. Since ValentineÕs Day is fast approaching, I am thinking of gifting my husband with something non-traditional-like something practical, unique and lasting Ð maybe an activity area where he can enjoy without leaving the house. Have you got some suggestions or ideas on how I can develop such an area inside our house?
A: YouÕre a pretty creative and innovative
young housewife, I should say. As
early as now, you are contemplating on what you can give your partner for a
ValentineÕs Day at present. Your
idea of setting aside and decorating an area of your home exclusively for your
husbandÕs entertainment and relaxation will indeed give birth to a unique,
practical as well as unforgettable gift your husband will surely appreciate and
cherish. Here are tips to help you
achieve your goal:
1. You know your husband more than anybody
else. You definitely know the
activities he enjoys the most.
Once you have pinpointed which one he truly prefers, concentrate your
efforts and planning on that activity to be able to create his ultimate
ÒprivateÓ area surprise.
2. For instance, if heÕs into
body-building, you can invest on gym equipments. Or, if heÕs an audio-video freak, you can transform a
portion of your study room or an extra bedroom as an AV Room. Place his stereo component, TV and
other video equipment in the area.
3. You can also buy your
husband new stuff like a videocam or a new, h-tech sound equipment. Place these things in the activity area
but make sure you conceal them until ValentineÕs Day so you donÕt spoil the
surprise.
4. If such an activity area is
existing, you can redecorate or renovate your room with his favorite
colors. Place a sofa bed inside the bedroom for relaxation
purposes.
5. I heÕs into drawing or arts, you
may want to put a drafting table inside the room complete with a set of paint brushes, sketch pads, drawing
pencils or yokens. Install on the
walls a couple of his works on decorative frames for a loving touch.
6. Lighting and ventilation
should be both adequate specially so when the activity room does not have
windows that can be opened. If
your budget warrants, you can an airconditioner installed inside the room.
Q: While in the States, IÕve been granted
a divorce from my American husband.
Since my kids area already settled with their own families, I decided to
come home to the Philippines and retire here. I am trying very hard to get on with my new life in my own
country. I want to rediscover my
roots by designing my new house without looking back too much on my past. Can you give me some ideas which I
could apply on my house?
A: This new house you are living in
now signifies a sense of security and closure, both at the same time. Security,
meaning you want to assure your family and friends that you can look after your well-being, even if you have been
accustomed to having someone to depend on most of your life. Closure, meaning you want to end that sordid chapter wherein you have
to part ways with somebody you had to spent your life with and finally have the
will to begin you life anew.
Going
through a divorce is difficult and having done so gives a sense of relief even
as it is painful. Moving to a
different place, much more, going home to the Philippines will offer you a new
lease on life and a chance to leave the past behind. As such, having a new home will help you forget. Here are some tips for an interior
makeover for a newly divorced woman just like yourself:
HAVE
YOUR ONE SPECIAL SOLITARY AREA.
This can be anywhere within the confines of your home. Choose this special place as your
solitary confinement where you can
do anything you please. You can
spend quiet time inside it for prayers and meditation, catch up on your
reading, write letters or just do nothing. Make sure that you are not bothered whenever you spend
sometime inside your special private sanctuary.
MAINTAIN
A CLUTTER-FREE HOME. As in any
home, your own abode should be free of too much clutter. Stick to simple and less dramatic
accessories and furniture pieces.
Opt for light-colored tones/shades for your walls and ceilings to imbibe
lightness of feeling. Go for
dainty colored curtains/drapes or blinds for your window treatment. Maintain cleanliness at all times. Place scented candles which you can
light up at night for ambiance and for its therapeutic purposes.
ADEQUATE
LIGHTING AND VENTILATION. This is
a must for every home. You can
also add mood lighting or focus lighting which you can install near displays or
paintings on walls.
GO
EASY WIT MEMENTOES. If you really
want to move on, make sure to avoid displaying too much things that remind you
of your ex-husband. These includes
photos, memorabilias or any dŽcor that may trigger your sentimental mood.
RESOLVE
TO BE INDEPENDENT AGAIN. If you
have been dependent for the longest time in your life, now is the right time to
be decisive and focus your energy on being dependent once again. Remind yourself that you only have
yourself to contend and bear with, thus you should concentrate on being
self-sufficient by trusting yourself that you can do it and being confident in
your inner drive and ability to surpass any difficulty that would come your
solitary way.
Q: To my pleasant surprise, I found out that I will be giving birth to
twins, but we have prepared the babyÕs room designed for one only.
How can I have re-designed to accommodate the other one? Please help me.
A: indeed, being a soon-to-be mom is a
blessing itself, what more to two babies ? I understand your plight, you have meticulously decorated
the room good for one baby only, but donÕt worry, there are several ways by
which you can conveniently convert the room for your coming twins. However, you must remember that twins
have a special innate bonding so separating them by placing each in a different
room is discouraged. Just follow
these simple tips to make room for the other baby.
1. If the baby crib that you recently
bought is quite big, I suggest that you just place a plexiglass right in the
middle of the crib to divide it into two.
This is a material similar to what you see in hospital nurseries. It is
a lightweight, safe and clear plastic/glass material which can be used for this
purpose. At least, you need not
buy a new crib for the other one.
2. Even the are born twins, they have
respective personalities quite different from each other. You must treat each one as individually
as possible. Try to respect each
others likes and dislikes if it comes to the point that they will have separate
rooms. You can color
and design the rooms depending on their fancy, most specially
if the kids are of age. This can
also help in identifying one from the other in case of identical twins of the
same sex.
3. As much as possible, allot a
space for play and recreation inside the babyÕs room.
4. Try to really know the characteristics of each child when
it comes to the eating and sleeping habits. In case one is a light sleeper, the crib/bed must be away
from windows or door. Otherwise,
this problem would hamper his growth and cause problems to his health.
5. if your budget allows, re-paint the
room or install wallpaper in
basic, simple and neutral design& color. Re-decorating would be easier if you have light colors
rather than the opposite.
6. Opt for vertical blinds with tracking
mechanism which you install on ceilings which can also serve as a divider. This will serve its purpose when the
other one is sleeping and the other is playing. A brightly colored and durable cloth with playful design can
also be used as a draw curtain which a less expensive alternative.
7. Place all your baby needs and
paraphernalia like feeding
bottles, milk, meds and vitamins on a sturdy table right in the middle of the
cribs within easy and accessible reach.
8. Give the room adequate lighting and
ventilation.
9. Keep the flooring free from rugs and
carpets since such carry dust
mites and pollens which can cause allergies to the sensitive skin of the
babies.
10. When the twins are already crawling and
learning to walk, it is advisable to place window & door guards.
Q: I am a middle-aged working mother
holding office in Ortigas. My job
usually entails me to extend my working hours beyond 5 PM robbing me of
precious time to spend with my two growing kids, aged 10 and 12.
Now
I am thinking of putting up my own business in my own house since it is quite
spacious. I like to put a day care
center for working moms. How do I
go about transforming my private home into this kind of business, yet
maintaining the ÒhomeÓ ambiance for the childrenÕs sake ?
A: I understand your sentiments when you say that your work has been taking
so much of your time that you fail to spend quality time with your kids. If you already have the resources, this
might be the right time to go for your business venture Ð a day care center
right in your own home. And since
you already have a place where you would build it, all you need are tips on how
to enhance and decorate it to become conducive to your prospective clients.
1. Refrain from using metal furniture; opt
for wood pieces painted with light
and pastel shades.
2. Accessories should be downplayed a
little bit. Go for soft and
multicolored pieces which appeals to kids which are also functional and
decorative like alphabet/number blocks and throwpillows in various designs.
3. If you have a garden or lanai, you can
use it as an extended area by organizing games where kids could interact with
each other.
4. Avoid placing objects made of glass or
items with sharp/pointed edges.
Kids are truly playful, they might break it and use it then injure
themselves in the process.
5. Provide adequate lighting &
ventilation. You can have it
airconditioned, but since your
business is just starting you just can have enough windows for the mean time.
6. Have a first-aid kit handy at all
times.
7. Maintain cleanliness and safety at all
times. Your kidsÕ parents might be
meticulous
on
this issue.
8. Try to maintain the privacy of your own
home. Make the other kids
understand this idea from the start.
And make this point stressed out to the parents as well.
9. Install reliable security lock systems
on your entrance/exit doors and gates.
Q: At 24, I am a stable and single career
woman. I do enjoy having
night-outs with close friends on weekends. We often try-out new bars in Malate or Makati. Name the place and we surely have been
there on a weekend night. ThereÕs
one catch, though,, whenever we go out, I sometimes go overboard, meaning, I
drink more than my limit. I drive
my own car which can cause problems.
So when that happens, I end up sleeping in my bestfriendÕs house.
Well
for a change, I am thinking of spending our nigh outs in my place. Aside from being less costly, it is
quite safe for us, too. can you
give me some tips on how to arrange the space suited for this purpose ? We have a spare room and a spacious garage
and lawn. Would these areas e
possible options ?
A: Well, at least, when you start doing
your night-outs with friends in your own home, your Mom would surely have peace
of mind. At your age, it not all
that bad to go on night-outs, but you have to set your drinking limit. Contemplating on this idea, you should
remember that your actions will always have an effect on other people. That space in your garage can be
converted for this purpose since noise and loud music is inevitable during such
happenings. HereÕs how:
a. If your parents would allow, you can
enclose that area of the garage for privacy. And if the spare room is chosen, make sure that is
soundproof to at least minimize the noise that can disturb your family members
and neighbors alike. You can also
have floor carpets for additional soundproofing.
b. Make the room as cozy as possible. Have big cushioned throwpillows as
functional and decorative items in the room.
c. Provide adequate ventilation. An airconditioner is good; otherwise,
have an exhaust fan to control hot and humid air inside the room.
d. Opt for multifunctional table, folding
chairs and storage cabinet. Limit
the furniture pieces to prevent a
cluttered look. It is advisable to
have a sink inside the room, too.
e. When male friends are invited, do not
place a mattress or futon bed so as not to convey any negative message.
f. Proper lighting is a must. Mood lights can be installed which can
add to the overall look and ambiance of the room.
g. Opt for manageable and washable
flooring. A laminated vinyl tile
is recommended. Paint the walls in
light colors to make the room look bigger.
h
.Watch out for electrical overload and make sure that all appliances are
turned-off
when
leaving the room.
i. Maintain a clean and airy room at all
times. A musty odor would invite
mold and insects to inhabit the room.
Regularly check and clean the room.
j. Set a time limit when you do your
night-outs. You still have to
consider other peopleÕs feelings, be it family members or neighbors.
K. Try to be sober. You are the hostess of that night-out,
if you notice your friends taking too much, assess the situation and call-of
the session when necessary. Ask
friends who are tipsy to just stay-over rather than drive themselves. Girls can spend it in your room while
boys can stay inside the party room.
Q: I hired a handyman to fix and change my
ceiling because it has been dirtied by drips or leaks from my roof. I already changed several GI sheets to
take care of the major problem.
Now, I want a newly painted ceiling but I am quite short in my budget
already. What tips ca you give me
to be an effective painter to do the job myself ?
A: Painting ceilings are a little
difficult than painting walls since aside from straining your neck, most of the
time, smooth and even application is less achieved when you are not a
professional. But are some tips to
make it a bit manageable for you.
CHOOSE
THE APPROPRIATE COLOR. You can ask
the paint dealer to mix the color you like. Check if it matches your choice. But if you do the testing at home, paint a piece of wood or
a discreet portion of your wall; after it dries up you can visualize it when
painted entirely on the ceiling.
Better yet, ask your dealer how many gallons would it take for such an
area to be painted.
PLACE
DROP CLOTHS FOR PROTECTION. It is
important that you do this before
you start painting so as not to create more drips/spills than you can handle. If you have old show curtains or
plastic covers, you can also use it for this purpose.
WEAR
PROPER PROTECTION WHEN PAINTING.
Wear latex gloves used by surgeons for easy grip and handling of paint
brush while being protected as well.
For feet protection, you can use old socks which you can pull over your
shoes or feet to them from being splattered with paint. As for your hair, you can buy
inexpensive show caps to protect your head from paint drips.
COVER
MOULDINGS, CORNICES & OTHER ELECTRICAL FIXTURES. Before painting, be sure that you cover your mouldings &
cornices, unless you prefer them to have the same color. But normally, such architectural
details serve as accent pieces so having it painted with a different color is
recommended. Any odd-shaped that
can be found on your ceilings like fluorescent lighting fixtures and pinlights
should be properly covered with plastic, masking tape or old newspaper to
prevent them from being accidentally painted over (that is if you cannot remove
them prior to painting).
FOLLOW
THIS BASIC RULE IN PAINTING YOUR CEILING.
Paint your ceiling across its width rather than its length. Start from a corner and work gradually
in patches.
PAINTING
THE EDGES OF THE CEILING CAN BE DONE WITH THE USE OF A BRUSH, WHICH CREATES A
SHARPER, CLEANER LINE THAN A ROLLER DOES.
Make this brushed edge around the ceiling at least 2 inches wide.
CLEAN
UP SPILLS IMMEDIATELY. Wipe all
spills and drips at once before it dries up. Use a moist cloth for latex paint and one with a paint
thinner for alkyd paints.
AVOID
PAINT RINGS ON YOUR TABLE by gluing or taping a paper plate or newspaper on the
bottom of the can.
HAVE
MAKE-SHIFT BEAM/LEDGES READY. If
your ceiling is quite higher than standard, use a ledge or beam by using a
sturdy piece of wood with 2 heavy duty chairs on each side. On a ceiling over a staircase, you can
set up the beam with the handrails as support.
OTHER
POINTS TO REMEMBER. Take note of
the paint manufacturer or product code. This will come in handy when you need
to do some re-touching works in the future.
Q:
I am quite fortunate to have made it made in the advertising world. I am single and currently dating. Humility aside, IÕve been with a string
of girls and sometimes I would invite them to my pad which is quite
ÒhomeyÓ. My current girlfriend has
not been into my place. I want to
redecorate my place before I finally invite her. You see, I am the type of guy who wants to make a statement,
specially with regards to my pad which I am quite proud of. Can you give me some tips on how to re-do my place?
A: Being a meticulous guy who takes time
mulling over what to do to their pads so as to impress his girl is not true for
all men, I must say. Here are some
points to consider to achieve the desired effect:
1. A bachelorÕs pad should always reduce
on too much decorative details.
2. For the bed, you can opt for a painting
or a piece of cloth mount on a board to be used as headboard for a unique
look. Anything that easily glides
and blends with your wall will do.
3. Furniture with unique textures can make
a bachelorÕs pad stand out.
Another trick for the bed:
Use fur as blanket.
4. Use pillowcases with graphic
designs. Scandinavian style
is a design statement in itself.
It basically sends subliminal messages like ÒI need help fastÓ or ÒI
need to be with someoneÓ.
5.
Having sculptural pieces inside the pad also helps. Use stools or furniture pieces with
simple leg design to tone down the look.
6. Keep electrical cords and wires out of
sight. Tuck them inside the walls
for a neat, finer appearance.
Place all electrical sockets in strategic locations where you normally
place major appliances.
7. Opt for mini-blinds. Aside from it being light and easy to
maintain, you can choose your desired colors to suit the motif of your pad.
8. Adequate lighting and ventilation also
helps. Mood lamps and other
lighting fixtures play an important role in achieving the overall look of the
pad.
9. Spend a little for a beautiful flower
arrangement that would make your pad even more interesting and endearing to
your lady love. When her visit is
over, you can give the flowers to her as a token of your affection.
10. Light up scented, decorative candles
for an utterly, romantic ambiance.
Q: IÕm in a dilemma. I have been married for about six
months now. My problem is my
mom-in-law and my own mom. You
see, both our mothers live with us because at first we thought we will have no
problems dealing with this set-up since we both are close to our mothers. But the oldies donÕt see eye to eye
when it comes to arranging furniture & fixtures in the house. And since they share the same room,
they tend to argue a lot on this issue.
This sometimes get into both of our nerves that it affects our own
relationship. How do we
handle this ?
A: To begin with, its wise to give your
moms a separate room. This will
allow them to have their own privacy at
their own space. Just
remember these pointers:
* Old people love a spacious room for
them to move about easily. It is wise
for them to have minimal furniture.
Stick to the basic necessities like bed, closet, side table, a chair and
simple accessories.
* Choose bedrooms that are quite far away
from the street, specially if your house is situated along a main road. The elderly hate loud noises that could
disrupt their sleep or activities that require concentration.
* Provide them a corner or a space for
their altars for praying.
* Keep the interiors simple and
basic. Choose light colors and
avoid slippery-type of flooring.
* It is suggested to give both rooms
futon beds rather than foam mattress-type beds which are airy and easy to
maintain.
* Play fair at all times. Avoid showing any special
favor/inclination to either party.
You surely will never go wrong with this line of thinking.
* Give both rooms equal attention. For example, if your mom wants painted
walls while the other prefer wallpaper, if your budget allows it then grant
their wishes. This way, you can
show both that you are attentive to their needs.
* As for the interiors outside their own
rooms, carefully explain to them to leave the decision regarding its design to
you and your husband. Remember to
do this nicely so as not to hurt their feelings.
Q: Eating at home has become monotonous
for my family. Though I am a good
cook, my children sometimes persuade us to just take them at a nearby fastfood
chain for some burgers and fries.
They seem to enjoy eating outside that I thought maybe I can try doing
this in the comfort of our home.
What do you think ?
A: It sure is costly to always take
your family to restaurants or
fastfoods. Well, your problems
will soon be over. You just to be
imaginative and creative to come up with ideas that will bring restaurant
ambiance in the comfort of your own home.
Here are some tips to consider for your own home:
a. You can set up a dine-out space in your
garden, terrace or veranda. If you
do not have the luxury of such spaces, you can do this in a nearby park within
the village or vicinity. Do it
picnic-style rather than brining handy chairs and table.
b. You can also do it in the garage or
balcony if you do not want to go out of the house. Spruce up and liven up the area by having flower
arrangements and plants inside the area.
c. If you are doing it outside, you may
put up a tent for you to use. Just
make sure that all the food are properly sealed with covers to keep out insects
and flies.
d. After taking care of the table setting,
motif and flower arrangement, focus on the menu. Make sure that you serve food ideal for a dine-out and those
that would appeal to the palate of growing kids such as burgers, corn on the
cob, hotdogs & BBQs.
e. Make sure you have checked the weather
condition before you schedule the dine-out.
f. Provide a suitable background
music. If you are dining out in
the evening, you can light up the place with decorative candles for a cozy
ambiance.
g. After eating, you can play board games
or other playful games for the family.
Dining
out need not be expensive or to be
done in a fancy restaurant. You
just have to be inventive to break the monotony of everyday routine. You can observe this on a regular
basis, either on weekends for lunch or dinner. This is an opportunity to spend quality time with the kids
since you exchanged pleasantries while eating in a relaxed ambiance. Once in awhile, you can encourage the
kids to invite their friends to join you have a dine-out. This is also a chance for more quiet
time and bonding moment with your spouse.
Q: For me, being single woman at 25 is no
cause for concern. But it like I
am a time bomb about to explode, with my biological clock ticking till its
batteries fail me. But IÕm quite
desperate for a serious relationship at this point. Well, I had my own share of suitors. They would visit me in the house for a
couple of times or more; however, they would just shy away and never would come
back after several visits. IÕm
pretty sure its not me nor my parents who are the culprit. I think thereÕs something in my home
interiors that reflects my personality in a bad light (if ever thereÕs such a
thing). We live in a humble house
which my mother inherited from her parents. What do you think ?
Can you give me suggestions on how I can spruce up our interiors ?
A: If you claim there is nothing in you or
your parents attitude that somehow scares the guys that visits you, then maybe,
there is something missing in your interiors that could have made guys more
interested in you all the more. Be
that as it may, you must remember that its not actually whatÕs inside the house
that matters, its basically the ÒwhoÓ in it that counts the most. ItÕs the kind of person that you are
that makes up whatever is lacing in your home interiors. Nevertheless, I will give you
suggestions on how to make your home more enticing to your guy
visitors/suitors.
1. Choose a motif or design that speaks
about who you are and what makes up your personality. The accents or accessories you display inside the room
reflects who you truly area. If
you favor family portraits, photos of family members and mementoes given by
loved ones, it shows that you are a family-oriented type of woman. Refrain, though, from displaying too
much of it for he might think that youÕre a woman who can away from her
family. As for items of antiquity
like vases or jars, such evokes a mysterious and passionate character that most
men find appealing in a woman who usually gives the impression of a good wife
material.
2. Maintain a clean and tidy home at all
times. This trait impresses the
guy more if you can keep the home clutter-free. Cleanliness and being organized that not all women are
blessed with. For sure, most men
would fall for a woman who can manage a healthy and clean surrounding for her
future family.
3. Go for plain or neutral tones for your
wall finish. It connotes finesse
and femininity. Otherwise, dark colored shades normally invokes
negative or heavy feelings when inside.
4. Play with lights. Install mood and directional
lighting. It enhances the look of
the room if such are strategically located in the room.
5. Install piped-in music. Music triggers a barrage of emotions
that makes a person susceptible to
suggestions. It also fills in the gap when you and your
suitor gets awfully awkward with each other.
6. When your suitor visits, offer some
food and drinks which you can share to make him at ease.
7. Be minimal in the use of accessories in
the living room. Some throwpillows
and decorative candles would do.
8. As much as possible, do not
overdo in displaying your diploma and achievements in school, spots & the
like because this would only intimidate any guy who plans to court you.
Q: I am planning to change my drab-looking
walls painted with plain enamel paint finish. I want it re-painted to be more presentable in time for my
relativesÕ visit from the province.
What can I do to make my walls more attractive and pleasing ?
A: I suggest that you do these easy
glazing techniques applicable for
use on plain painted walls like what you have n your home. Creating these interesting and easy
finishes on your walls, however, entails creativity and patience to do it
yourself.
Achieving
such finishes can be done through GLAZING, a technique in which a flimsy, thin
coat of paint (which is actually the glaze) is applied over a completely dry
base coat. Here are other
techniques from which you can choose the appropriate finish for your home.
SPONGING
TECHNIQUE. In using this
particular technique, all you would need is an adequate supply of clean natural
sponges. The procedure is simple;
try to measure the wall to be painted then divide it into 3x3 feet square areas
(90x90 cms). Begin with dabbing a clean sponge on a coat of glaze and apply it on small and
manageable areas. Taking a new and
clean sponge, apply glaze in a similar dabbing pattern over the next 3-footr
square areas. Continue the same
procedure until the entire walls are finished.
STIPPLING
TECHNIQUE. Materials you
will need for this technique are your reliable paint roller, a stippling tool
and a patient working partner to assist you as you apply the glaze on your
walls. Start with applying the
glaze with a roller. While the
paint is sticky to the touch, poke or jab a stiff brush into to produce desired
pattern or effect. Your buddy
would be your best handyman since as you apply the glaze, the other follows
with a stippling tool. One very
important tip, though, make sure that you use oil-based (alkyd) paints since a
slow-drying kind of paint is needed for this procedure which a water-based
(latex) paint cannot produce.
RAG-ROLLING
TECHNIQUE. Again, you would need a
generous supply of clean rags and a reliable partner to assist you. the procedure requires you to begin
with applying a glaze of oil-based (alkyd) paint over a dry alkyd base. While the base is still tacky or sticky
to the touch, use strips of cloth, preferably cotton, either rolled, folded or
crumpled to blot oil part of the glaze in a pattern. Your painting partner would just prepare clean rags dipped
in the glaze to replace the ones you are using as they fill up with glaze. In this manner, your momentum will not
be hindered if you choose to do it by yourself.
In
all the above glazing techniques, you will use a paint or roller pan for easier
painting. It is suggested that
before you pour the paint, line the roller pan with a large plastic bag or
aluminum foil. After you finish,
you can easily remove the lining and thereÕs no mess to clean up, anymore. You just have to be creative to produce
the desired effect/pattern. Then
you will find your walls all spruced-up and lively.
The
art of FENG SHUI originated from Ancient China. It was originally intended to be used in locating burial
sites for the hierarchy. Almost
all the houses for the emperors during that time had to undergo the customary
feng shui treatment by no less than the experts.
In
modern times, feng shui gained popularity when affluent Chinese families and businessmen has
their homes and offices
constructed or renovated as per recommendations made by the feng shui
masters. But the fact remains that
the elements of design and the application of appropriate motifs depending on
the size and location of the area concerned plays a vital link in the overall
aura of the place. The materials
used for it also plays a very important part in achieving the desired
effect. Feng shui, no matter how broad and wide in scope,
still hold true for those who practice and believe its power. To the believers, it brings good luck,
fortune and fame. Though it covers
a lot of ground from the placement of furniture, windows, doors, positioning of
the house, location of land, among others; you do not really have to change
what has been existing all along once the experts advises you something to the
contrary. Feng shui masters can prescribe gadgets such as
chimes, metals, Ònatural elementsÓ, chi mirrors and the like to attract good
vibrations and repel negative vibes.
Today,
not only Chinese but also Filipinos are avid believers of this ancient art. The
mere ocular inspection, however, of an expert can be quite costly. But for these adamant followers, the
price is no match for the wealth and good luck they believe will befall them. Feng shui teaches how to be at peace
with nature, the earth and its elements like water, fire, air and soil. It teaches you how to use such to your
advantage without causing undue harm to yourself and to earthÕs essential
components. Here are some points
of reference with regards to Feng shui:
MAIN
DOOR. Experts believe that the
actual placement/location, size and even color of your main door affects the
inflow of good chi in your home.
The direction where such is facing also is guided by this practice. East side represents wood, West side
represents gold and metals, South side represents fire, North side represents
water.
FENCE. The height and materials used for the
fence also affect the influx of good or bad vibes into your homes. Normally, experts advise the use of
minimal rocks in the construction of the fence for they believe that such stunt
growth in all aspects.
LAND
TOPOGRAPHY. This pertains to the
outline or form of the land which somehow affects the chi of the owners or
occupants.
STATE
OF THE LOT/LAND. If the physical
condition of the lot/land is quite on the negative side, Feng shui masters
usually adapt certain materials or gadgets to counteract the not so good vibes,
like an aquarium, potted live plants placed in a certain portion of the room
where negativity is much concentrated.
The use of water invites energy.
For a door placed against another door, the use of chimes is prescribed.
LOCATION
OF LOT/LAND. If your bedroom door
is facing the stairs, the concept is quite acceptable in Feng shui, although a
gadget is used to counteract the bad chi that can immediately go inside the
room. A bathroom placed against
the stairs is a big no-no. the
experts would surely ask you to relocate the bathroom to avoid misfortunes.
TOILETS/BATHROOMS. These should not be placed directly
under or beside a bedroom or a place of rest for it is believed that such suck
oneÕs energy and replace this with negative chi.
COLOR AND MEASUREMENT. The windows should at least compliment the size of the house. Opt for bright colors to lighten up the aura /ambiance of the interiors.
Q: I love to look at and buy second-hand
furniture. Aside from it being
less costly, I can do some remodeling of my own to copy a design I saw in the
magazines. But sometimes, when I
get to buy one, it only ends up in my storage room since my work also keeps me
busy. There were times that I
forget all about it until I stumble upon it by accident. I really cannot help myself from
second-hand buying. I know I can
find use for these items. Any
ideas which you can share to me ?
How about some tips on what to look for when buying a second-hand
furniture ?
A: I understand perfectly well your reason for opting to buy
second-hand furniture. With so
many surplus shops that sprout everywhere, its no wonder that second-hand items
appeal not only to you, but to the masses, in general. If you have noticed, most second-hand
furniture takes on an antique look that makes them all the more attractive. This is specially true of pieces
made of Narra wood which is a sturdy and har wood. Here are tips to get you by:
1. Possess a keen eye for a good
bargain. Select a piece not for
its shape alone, but for its good craftsmanship.
2. Be cautious of just buying an item
because you fancy it. It is wise
to be meticulous even if its only second-hand item that you are buying.
3. Try to find out is the supplier is
reliable/reputable. If they are,
you can always come back to them or even order what you like. You can also reserve items once they
can contact you.
4. Buy only item which feature unique and
intricate designs which are normally found in expensive and authentic items.
5. Check if the finishes are also
authentic. Most second[-hand items
are just painted over to look like the original.
6. Even at surplus shops or flea markets,
you can still ask for a warranty wherein they can write it down on the receipts
together with their contact number.
7. Check for termites or insects within
the nooks and crannies of any wooden item to be sure.
8. If the item is claimed to be antique,
check form the supplier how old the furniture item might be.
9. Make sure that such items when bought
blends well with your existing motif or home interiors so that it will not end
up in your storage area.
10. For items you have bought and donÕt
have any use of, you can have it re-sold at a much cheaper price. Organize your own sale so that instead
of such ites being a clutter, you can earn extra money from it.
Q: Now that we can afford to have a house
of our own, my husband and I want a special look for our bedroom. Since both of us are sensual persons,
we want a room that is enjoyable
and enticing so as perk up our sexual intimacy. Please give me some suggestions on how I can achieve this.
A: Frankly speaking, having a
well-designed or well-planned bedroom, for that matter, takes more than
professional acumen or creative imagination. It is basically the love and emotions you have for your
partner that makes it more special. It would be much better if you can plan it
together. Get his ideas and
suggestions and compliment it with your own to come up with one great
design. HereÕs some ideas which
you can incorporate with your chosen design:
If
your budget warrants it, you can install a Jacuzzi near the bedroom.
If you have kids,
however,
it is advisable to have it covered or enclosed for safety reasons. Having an organized and uncluttered
look is the key to a well-designed
bedroom. Keep the furniture pieces
to a minimum essential to maintain a spacious look. Light up scented candles before you retire at night. They donÕt only ÒromanticizeÓ the room,
it also masks ay damp smell inside it.
It also sends a signal to your partner that you want an intimate night
with him. Having directional
lighting changes the ambiance.
Dimmers, sconces or decorative lamps are options to achieve a romantic
effect. This also creates drama
for an intimate moment with your partner.
It
is important to remember that the room is for both of your sensual
pleasure. Men, by nature, prefers
simplicity in design, thus avoid being too decorative so as not to
overcrowded. Try to stick to
simple lines to soften the masculine appeal, if ever. If the room is airconditioned, opt for curtains
or draperies as window treatment.
Go for not so solid colors to make the room feel spacious. Compliment the colors of the curtains
with the overall color scheme of the room. Otherwise, you can go for blinds which are less expensive
and easy to maintain.
Make
sure that the bedroom is always clean and tidy. Because any room even if beautifully designed when
poorly maintained losses its appeal. Have designated places for all your respective personal
effects. Be organized. Having piped-in music installed also
contributes a lot to have that perfect, intimate and cozy romatic & secret
hideaway you both desire.
Q: My best friend is to get married next
month and I am planning to host a bridal shower for her at my place. How can I fix up my house in
preparation for this occasion ? I
want to have a festive yet casual arrangement for the living room. Please give me some tips on how I can
achieve this look.
A: here are some few suggestions on how
you can prepare your house for your bestfriendÕs bridal shower:
1. Do a thorough cleaning of the house.
2. For a casual feel, you can use
multicolored throwpillows as accents.
You can arrange them around a low center table where the bride-to-be-
and friends can sit themselves and share over a Òpica-picaÓ.
3. Accentuate your home wit the weddingÕs
color motif, throwpillow covers, doilies or table runners and napkins.
4. Brighten the room with scented
candles. They lighten up the room
and enhance the overall ambiance of the place.
5. Fresh flower arrangements are always a
plus in any interior make-over.
Provide a couple complete with decorative vases.
6. You can place framed photographs of
yourself and the bride-to-be as a personal token to your bestfriend which you
can give after the celebration.
7. Another creative thing of doing it is
by having those pictures pasted then photocopied and used as giftwrapper. It is a unique idea and gives your gift
a personal touch.
8. Prepare a light menu. It is best to serve more finger-foods
and lots of beverages (both alcoholic & otherwise) to the guests.
Q: It has been my practice to save and
safekeep some of my money inside the house. Please give me some tips on how I can hide valuables safely.
A: As a matter of fact, keeping your money
and valuables inside the house is not really recommended. But with several cases of Òbank runÓ
cases, I cannot really blame you; although, putting such in the safety of a
bank is still the best way to safekeep your valuables and important
papers. There are several reasons
why there are still people who prefer keeping money inside their homes. Accessibility is the prime reason since
you do not have to walk or drive to the nearest bank to deposit or withdraw
money. Secondly, comfortability
and security that when you need cash anyday or anytime, such is readily available. And lastly, some people lack trust and
confidence in our banking system.
But if you insist on placing money and valuable items in you homes
because you feel comfortable and safer with this idea, then here are some tips
which you can follow to get some piece of mind:
1. If your house is under construction, it
is wise to provide a specific location within the house where you can safekeep
your money and valuables. You can
have it fabricated so it cannot be moved anywhere else. This way, your valuables are concealed
from view of other people other than those who know it exists. But importantly, limit the number of
people who knows where your vault is located.
2. The topmost portion of your cabinet or
closet can be an alternative idea provided that you and those closest to you
only knows where it is. Proper
concealment is the key factor to effective safekeeping of money within the
house.
3. A shelf on the lower part of a side
cabinet would also serve the purpose.
For safety, make sure that such is complete with superior locking
system. Remember that whenever you need to open it, you should do so in private
to avoid future problems.
4. If you can afford it, buying a durable
and reliable safety vault/box is highly recommended. Not only it is made of safe-proof steel, it also has an
effective lock combination and you can have it custom-made to suit your
personal requirements. You can
also opt to have it lined up with asbestos to make it fireproof as another
preventive measure.
5. Having an attic or basement also
helps. You can allocate a portion
of these areas for safekeeping
your money and other valuables.
Just make sure that these area is not damp to prevent mildew from
damaging your valuables. Provide
adequate ventilation to at least minimize this sort of problem.
6. A minimal amount of money can be kept
inside canisters or covered jars in your kitchen area.
7. Take pictures of your valuables like
jewelry, money, land titles, passports, among others for record purposes and
this will come in handy whenever theft or burglary occurs.
8. It is also wise to have pertinent
documents photocopied for extra file/record.
9. Secure all cabinet doors and drawers
with a quality lock system. Always
the carry the keys and have an extra pair secretly hidden for emergency.
10. In case of burglary or theft, never
attempt to alter the scene of the crime for investigation purposes.
Q: Unfortunately, my home is situated in a
low-lying area and is very much prone to flooding. Now that is rainy season once again, this is my perennial
problem because of too many hassles caused by flood waters. Please give me some tips so as to
safeguard my family, furniture and appliances.
A: With the unpredictability of our
weather, nowadays, it is important that you are ready whenever floodwater
rises. The worst scenario is when
you reach home after a heavy downpour, floodwater has risen and has caused
horrendous damage to your home and properties. Here are some practical tips which you can follow to avert
the inevitable flooding which is the problem of your area:
a. If your budget warrants, it is best to
change location. Otherwise, if
your house is only one-storey, it is best to have a second floor constructed
wherein you put to safety your family and your properties.
b. Make sure that your canals and drainage
are clean and devoid of garbage because once floodwater comes in, all the
dirt/garbage would also flow in your home.
c. It is wise to have your kitchen area
elevated. Use cement reinforced
steel for the flooring.
d. Since you are in a flood prone area,
opt for sofa sets and chairs upholstered in leatherette and are
lightweight. These items are
easier to move around when needed.
e. Avoid placing carpets and rugs.
f. Be always prepared. Store canned food, drinking
water, batteries, portable radio upstairs for emergency purposes.
g.
It is also wise to have a new comfort room constructed in the upper floors in
case floodwater tends to stay for a couple of days or more.
h. During rainy seasons, it is best to
have somebody left in your house.
Post your contact numbers so they can easily get in touch with you.
i. Avoid using porous materials for your
flooring so as not to absorb water and moisture which would cause stale odor
when floodwaters recede.
j. Immediately clean the floors since bacteria abounds in
floodwaters. Disinfect the area as
much possible.
k. Place a cemented door, if possible, to
pose as barrier to at least lessen the flow of water coming inside the house.
l. If you have bought a land in such a flood-prone area, construct the house
much higher than the level of the road to at least minimize, if not eradicate,
the problem of flooding.
m. Safeguard all your electrical
appliances by putting it on higher grounds. Cover all electrical outlets and turn-off the main switch to
prevent accidents,
n. For things that are too heavy to
move, make sure that you tie them with a sturdy rope tied around a post inside
the house to prevent it from being
moved by floodwaters.
Q: I must say that I was in the peak
of my career coupled with a happy
family life when tragedy struck. I
got involved in a vehicular accident which rendered me paraplegic, someone who
has lost control of her lower extremities. Now, I move around in a wheelchair and thanks to my family
and friends who have never let go of me during my trying times. Almost a year has passed and I am now
living my second lease on life as a domesticated wife and mother. But because I have limited motion, can
you give me some tips on how to go about decorating my house which I very
serious about right now. Thanks
and more power.
A: It is truly a blessing to have a strong
support group from your family and friends. Though you might view it otherwise, let it serve as a
reality check for you, your family and your strong faith in God. You are right, get yourself busy and
pre-occupied so as to take your mind off self-pity and restlessness. Here are some tips:
1. For obvious reasons, it is wise to
transfer or move the masterÕs bedroom to the ground floor. This will remove undue stress to you
and your family.
2. Make your bedroom spacious and devoid
of clutter. This will allow freer
movement without undue accidents.
Arrange your bedroom that is convenient for you and your wheelchair to
move about. Place all immediate
needs like medicines, books, remote control on a side table beside the bed for
easy access.
3. Allocate a special area in the house where you
can hold personal physical exercises and your regular therapy sessions for a
faster recovery.
4. If you do not require a private area
for exercise/therapy, your own private room can be an alternative idea where
you can meditate, listen to your favorite music and do your reading.
5. Provide ramps for your stairs, porches
or verandas for easy access.
6. Colors play a vital role in your
recovery Place bright, cool and
relaxing colors that are pleasant
to the eyes. This helps alleviate stress and depression as
compared to dark and earthly tones.
7. Having a garden where you can look after a variety of
plants and flowers can be a great stress-reducer. You can cut flowers in your garden and arrange them in
beautiful vases which you can use to decorate your living room. Who knows if you have the hand in
flower-arranging then you can do it as a money-earning hobby.
8. Try to maintain easy to clean furniture
pieces. This allows less strenuous
activity for you which could facilitate in your early recovery.
9. If your budget allows, you can install
smooth floor finishes like parquet or marble which causes less friction on your
wheelchair. It is also easy to
maintain.
10. Try to widen all your door
openings to accommodate
mobility. If this is not feasible,
try do it on your bedroom door for easy in and out of your wheelchair.
11. Put hand=grabs in strategic places like
comfort room, stairways, doorways or hallways. This would come in handy when you are able to stand and walk
by yourself.
12. Have an electrician install lighting
fixtures on dark corners where you most often stay.
13. Limit the use of area rugs, doormats
and carpets. These may cause
accidental fall or slippage when you move around the house.
14. Provide adequate ventilation inside the
house particularly inside the bedroom.
Try to open your windows during early mornings to freshen up the room.
Q: I am a mother to a growing brood of six
kids. Its not that I am complaining, ours Is a very happy family specially when
all the kids are around. WhatÕs
been bothering me is the constant nagging of my two eldest kids, both teenage
son and daughter, who wants to have their own rooms. Although I can give in to their wants, our house is not
spacious enough to accommodate to it and my budget is not enough at this time for a room/house
renovation. If we give in to their
whims, we could only provide a small area for each still within the confines of their younger siblingÕs
room. Help me on how to go about
this problem.
A: I agree that family togetherness and
bonding is very essential in the molding of the respective personalities of
your children. Surely, there will
come a time when privacy and individuality is to be demanded by each one, so
you must be ready for it.
FOR
THE YOUNGER ONES. As much as
possible, give each child a
separate bed of their own
be it a double or triple-deck bed.
This saves on space and less costly instead of buying new ones. Require them to make over their
respective beds every morning. Opt
for wooden deck beds rather than metal ones which is rust-free which can cause
tetanus when your child has a wound or cut. . Provide each one with individual closet space for clothes
& drawers for personal things.
To save on space, you can have pull-out drawers installed under their
deck beds or hung cabinets.
Go for light color scheme, painting the room with dark colors makes it
smaller. Its also not suitable for
a kidÕs room to have heavy colors.
Provide sufficient lighting and ventilation inside the room. This is very important specially if you
do not have a separate study room.
You can also provide air vents for continuous airflow. Implement a clean and orderly room at
all times, smaller kids should learn how to arrange their toys and personal
stuff every after use.
FOR
THE OLDER KIDS. Try to separate
the boys from the girls by giving them separate beds and separate rooms. If such is not feasible, in one room,
you can divide it into two and allow them to choose the paint color of their
rooms. Likewise, persuade them to
decorate it according to their tastes for it allows self creative expressions
which is a part their growing-up years.
Be there as guide if needed for suggestions. Adequate lighting & ventilation sis almost always a
must. They should be responsible
for their respective rooms. Enough
closet space for clothing is
recommended and install hung cabinets for space-saving techniques. For manageable alternative for window
treatment, install min-blinds instead of curtains/drapes. Try to maintain furniture pieces to a
few very important pieces like a study table cum dresser and chair. It would make the room less cluttered and cramped.
It
seems sadly incongruous that the bedroom is by far the most personal room in
the house, yet, the most neglected.
Perhaps the reason is that it is not usually on public view; therefore,
a housewife may take this excuse for making it less enticing to her husbandÕs
view. It may come from a primeval
instinct that beds played an important role in their lives. Most people would like to have their
beds in a place secluded from the routine of everyday life. The bedroom is a place where privacy is
respected and where important matters are discussed. It is best that the housewife create the mood for romance a
bedroom is entitled to. Here are
some tips to achieve this:
WINDOW
TREATMENT.
WALL
TREATMENT
BED
TYPES
FURNISHINGS
FLOOR
TREATMENT
LIGHTING
ODDS
AND ENDS
SPACE
SAVERS
A
lot of homeowners now sell their houses for a more compact unit in either a
condominium or townhouse. Blame it
on the costliness of owning and maintaining a house and the rising value of
residential property. A
condominium has a lot of advantages.
For one, security is provided for unit owners. Lesser expense in home furnishings is incurred, for
another. However, space could be a
problem. Sometimes, unexpected
guests may arrive, entailing accommodation. Perhaps your family grows sooner than you expected. Here are some suggestions to solve the
problem:
1) HANGING BEDS. Suspend a mattress from the ceiling by using a wooden plank
and ceiling hoist. Paint the plank
the same color as the ceiling. The
advantage of this such an innovation is that the hanging bed can be hauled
right up the ceiling, leaving the whole floor clear for other activities for
the day.
2) SPLIT-LEVEL BEDS. The whole bedroom is placed one level
higher than the door height. Lower
space can be used for other purposes like closet space. Designers still prefer this type
because it brings interest to the whole room.
3) ROLL-UP MATTRESS OR JAPANESE-STYLE
BEDS. A rubber mattress can be
rolled up and fixed in a manner that fits the interior design. It is recommended for children who need
mattresses for play.
4) FOLD-AWAY BEDS. These beds can be raised and tilted to
a cabinet or recessed box type design on the wall. They are provided with mattresses which are fastened to the
bed legs and automatically unfold when used. They come in handy when unexpected guests drop by. Space saved can be used for other
activities.
5) PULL-OUT BEDS. These are beds pulled out like drawers
and usually have ballcasters and are pushed back during daytime.
6) SOFA BEDS. As the name connotes,
this type is a seat by day and a bed by night. As such, its armrest & backrest are not permanently
constructed.
7) CABINET BEDS. It cascades in varied levels and provide sleeping &
siting platforms as well as a useful drawer.